My friend is dating my brother
That's a surefire way to hurt Eric and lose your best friend in one fell swoop.
Make sure that if you're taking a risk, you're doing it with the best intentions and for a relationship that's worth it to both of you. Have you ever dated a friend's sibling (or other family member)?
Lately, we haven't seen each other very often, we don't talk very often, and I'm the one who constantly start things.
What's happening now is that I've been spending a lot of time with Eric, my best friend's brother.
I really enjoy spending time with Eric; he is a great guy, and I have a possibility of something serious with him, something that Max won't give me. OK, let's address the two separate parts of this dilemma individually. I understand that you still have feelings for Max, which is natural after three years, but you need to cut things off with him for good.
” —: When you're in any new relationship, keep yourself aware of your friend's feelings.
This especially rings true if that friend is the family member of your new crush!
This is not a relationship that's going to work, and I think it's time for you to let go of it. It's always tricky to date a friend's family member, but you're really playing with fire if you go into it feeling unsure of your feelings for him.
I know that's easier said than done, but I sense that you know deep down that it's what you need to do, and you can do it. It sounds like so far you've been pretty open and honest with Eric about the situation, and that's a good start.