Of course, kids who already have relationships — and even some still in the talking phase — will go with that special person, but still as part of a group. If that’s the case, the only thing you can do is offer support and perhaps plan a trip or outing for that night.To college students, hooking up means having casual sex.Megan*, a senior at Myers Park High School in Charlotte, says only about 20 percent of these relationships result in an official couple.Jennifer*, a junior at Sanderson High School in Raleigh, notes that while it’s not cool to “talk” to more than one person at a time, some people go from one talking “relationship” to another without actually dating anyone, which tends to explain the relatively low numbers of actual couples.Yes, the prom as we knew it still exists, but even its drama pales in comparison to today’s boy-girl relationship issues.
Parents should try to stay on top of who their child is talking to or dating, and why — especially with younger teens.Case in point: There’s a myth in teen circles that you can’t get STDs from oral sex, Gurwitch notes.She says as cringe-inducing as this conversation will be, it has to get done. “There’s something about not sitting next to each other on a couch that makes this easier for both you and your child.” Just because teens are more casual and sophisticated about dating doesn’t mean they don’t still suffer heartbreak.For high schoolers, it can mean that, too, but usually refers to making out at parties or get-togethers.Kids hook up with people they’ve just met, casual acquaintances and even friends. Jennifer, when asked if hooking up with a guy meant a girl had a crush on him, says dismissively, “Nope.” And Megan concurs: “It would seem very strange to me that a girl would think there’s something there” after a hookup.
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Broken hearts after a breakup are real, too, and just as with adults, there’s no timetable for recovery.