Dating depressed man
This isn't everyone who's dated a depressed person's story — but this is mine.
When dating my depressed ex, I was forever heading to museums alone, standing awkwardly in the back of concerts by myself, or missing movies and parties because he didn't want to go and I didn't always want to go alone.
After dating a depressed partner for a while, I had a hard time even remembering what a normal relationship was like. And somehow, I was still asking myself, "How did I become depressed?
It’s not as easy to catch depression as it is to catch a cold, of course — but eventually, it spread to me. I felt sadness at what our relationship had become, sadness at what our lives has become. "I realize that yes, I just complained through this whole piece, and I'm not the one with depression.
Those are the two main choices, and neither are pleasant. Yes, of course — but sometimes, despite your best intentions, you can lose yourself in the process.
When I was with my depressed partners, I loved them — but I also felt stressed and scared.
Depression is something to take very seriously — nearly seven percent of adult Americans struggle with depression, a disease that can take a toll of every area of your life, from your health to your finances.
Neglecting myself to focus on him left me bubbling with resentment. My doctor asked me what I was using for protection.
“Nothing.” She looked at me funny, about to lecture, and then I said, “I’m not having sex.” It was especially awkward, as she had seen my boyfriend in the waiting room when she called me. Coping with a depressed partner with a non-existent sex drive made me feel like I was not in a relationship, or like something was wrong with me.
The more I isolated myself, the more dependent I became on the relationship for everything — not just love. Any time I said the wrong thing, it felt like everything would fall apart.
The stress would sit in my stomach like a bomb, and when things exploded, I thought, "Here it is." Sometimes, I wished I could be in a normal relationship, arguing about dirty dishes or some other trivial thing.