Dating a legally separated man
Up until this point, Ben’s been content to let his ex wife call the shots regarding their separation. Some people (especially men) take this approach because they are holding out hope for reconciliation.
Religion is less straightforward about this, and it does depend on what religion too.
I’ve recently met someone and we’ve fallen pretty hard for each other. Plus, she’s totally hung up on the fact that he said he was divorced on OKCupid. For reasons more pragmatic than principled, I am opposed to people dating before they are divorced.
We both have two kids in middle school: a girl and a boy. So, for all intents and purposes, it's like they're divorced, they just haven't done the paperwork. She says dating him is wrong because he’s still a married man. Dear In Love, I realize this happens all the time, but I think misrepresenting one’s marital status on a dating site raises legitimate questions about a person’s veracity. The bigger issue here is not that Ben said he was divorced on OKCupid, it’s that he is in fact still married.
Generally speaking, the religious meaning of adultery is sex by a married person with another person (whether married or not).
In that sense then, a separated man is still married to his spouse, and therefore he is committing adultery.
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You, on the other hand, would be committing fornication with him instead if you’re unmarried but adultery too if you are married yourself.